The bride was praised for making her in-laws pay for the guests she invited to her wedding.
The 23-year-old voiced her frustrations to Reddit, under the username u/Diligent_Scratch2844, which has amassed 7,000 upvotes since its post Friday.
Later, the post It was deleted, but backed up on the site after sparking a heated debate, as the engaged woman responded to the comments, sharing more details.
The woman explained that she and her fiancé, 27, initially wanted to elope, but were talked about at a “church wedding and small reception”.
The couple narrowed their guest list to 30 people each, as well as the four-person wedding, which was described as “large but manageable.”
While she emphasized in the comments that “the original plan was to serve the food by women from the church.”
A wedding is an expensive event, with Brides.com stating that the average wedding costs $20,000, according to “Weddings & Money 2021: A Brides & Investopedia Study.”
Big costs include venue, which is the second most expensive item after episodes at around $3,000 and food in third, at $2,000.
The site quotes Jamie Chang, owner and wedding planner at Mango Muse Events, who claimed that any cash-strapped bride and groom need to reduce their guest list to keep costs low.
“A large part of the planning process has to do with the number of guests, so when you reduce the number of guests, all of those costs go down as well, because you need less space, less food, less drinks, fewer rentals, fewer centerpieces, fewer favorites, etc. . . , “She said.
But the bride’s family threw a wrench into the works, saying, “My fiancée [sic] Parents decided they wanted more people at the wedding. Like 40 more. His cousins he hasn’t seen in years, their next-door neighbor, his mother’s business partner, two of his father’s friends are from the military. Just random people.
“I found out because the printer, my cousin, told me that my future in law had asked for another set of invitations.”
Of course, she was angry, but after chatting with her future husband, they devised a plan to make her in-laws pay for the extra guests.
“My husband came up with a better idea,” she said, explaining that she told her in-laws that they had decided to go to a smaller place, with a maximum capacity of 75 people, due to fire safety regulations.
She said, “They looked intermittent and asked why we don’t use the hall in the church as we said we were going. That’s 200 seats.”
The couple claimed that this was because the church did not allow them to serve alcohol, as it increased pressure on in-laws to cleanse.
“They started pushing us to get a bigger lounge and suggested we might need more seats and food.
“Don’t go,” she said. “We already knew who was coming even without invitations being answered yet. Max 50 people. We were fine.”
In the end, they cracked up and confessed everything. The bride revealed: “Purify my girlfriend and tell us about the extra people.
The chart below is provided by statistaShows the cost of an American wedding.
“We told her it’s SOL [s**t out of luck] Because we didn’t let them. And my brother, the policeman, was going to put our guest list at the door.
“They pleaded with us to get a bigger lounge and order more food. We told them it wasn’t within our budget. They ended up writing a check to cover the extra guests.
“They’re upset because they had their money for the holidays. They’re pissed that we didn’t roll over and accommodate them. My fiancée and I are pissed that they tried to mess with our wedding day.”
Redditors overwhelmingly backed the pair, with the top comment, by Effie-sue, receiving 9,200 upvotes alone. “Oh… you and your fiancé are hard-core! Love them. NTA,” said the Redditor.
When Bitter-Conflict-4089 asked, “Why don’t you just ask them to uninvite all strangers?”
The bride replied: My fiancée wanted to teach them a lesson.
MoldyRadicchio thought: “NTA stories like this make me want to run away if I get married someday. It’s funny how quickly people make things about themselves.” She replied, “I wish we had.”
Scout41741 wrote: “NTA. But I read many of those stories where I expected your fiancé to support his parents. That was a surprise, but it was a surprise.” To whom the bride assured him: “that his idea be true.”
NEWSWEEK u/Diligent_Scratch2844 has been accessed for comment. We were unable to verify the details of the case.