In a popular social media post, a worker shared his story of how he dealt with a “sexist” customer who demanded to speak to “one of the boys” instead of a worker.
Posted in Reddit’s r/MaliciousCompliance Forum, a man under the anonymous username u/WolliesMudcake shared his story and his post received over 18,000 upvotes and 700 comments.
The original poster (OP) began his story by explaining that when he was 18, he worked for a well-known auto parts company. In the store where he worked, there were an equal number of male and female employees. However, female employees sometimes receive feedback from both men and women asking if there is a male worker who can help them instead.
While the OP was working in the back of the store, a female co-worker asked him if he could help a customer. He briefly explains that she has been with the company for about seven years and that he has only been there for a few months.
The OP wrote, “I ask why she needs help because she usually knows more than I think about how long she’s worked here. She explained that she was standing at the service desk and a guy came and asked her to ‘get one of the That the man needs his help. So after hearing this I decided I might as well have some fun. To follow me back to the office where it was and just let me sort it out.
“I get to the client and I ask him what he needs. He makes it clear what was next, so I just stare with a puzzled look for a moment. Look at the client and say ‘I’m sorry I actually don’t know how to help with that’ and turn to my co-worker and say ‘Actually, She’s an expert in the field who knows more about it than I do and I’m sure she can help you.” He seems annoyed and asks about “another one of the boys and on the signal of one of my other male colleagues who overheard the whole conversation,” he continued.
After some of the other male employees echoed the OP’s words, the customer “reluctantly” let the woman help him but eventually walked out of the store without a word.
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What is “sexism” and how to deal with it at work
As defined by the United States Equal Employment Opportunity Commission, sex discrimination involves treating a person (an applicant or employee) unfavorably because of that person’s gender, including sexual orientation, gender identity, or pregnancy.
Are you or someone you know subject to gender discrimination in your workplace? Here’s what you can do via equrights.org:
- Review your company’s policies to see how they protect you.
- Document everything by writing down things and keeping any letters or notes that can help you.
- Report your concerns to Human Resources (HR) and ask them in writing.
- If you want to file a lawsuit, you can file a complaint with the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC).
- Discuss your situation with a lawyer.
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Several Redditors have shared similar stories.
“I used to work for a large agricultural equipment company, Sperry New Holland. It was in 1980 and I was about 20 years old. We worked with agricultural equipment dealers all over our area. One day, one of those dealers who specialize in my area called and wanted to speak to a guy who knew something.My boss happened to be standing at my desk at the time so I tried to hand him the phone.He said,Tell this guy there aren’t any men here who know anything u/clerk said 978!!
U/Mjummotron wrote, “I’ve been working in tech support for a major computer company for about 15 to 20 years. Phones were about 50/50 men and women working. I was sitting next to a woman who didn’t take any crap at all from either one.”
“She got a call from a client in his late fifties who kept asking to speak to a male colleague because it was a technical question and he wanted to make sure everyone understood the problem correctly. Her reply was ‘I’m sorry, none of my male colleagues is available but if you call your wife on the phone instead’ From that, I’m sure we can solve the problem. One of the best laughs I got at that job.”
U/Competitive-Slice567 shared, “I run in an area as a paramedic where many residents and even EMTs got stuck in the 1950s. Had a crew member ignored my paramedic trainee and gave me a report because the prevailing attitude was ‘A woman can’t be a paramedic, let alone a paramedic,'” said U/Competitive-Slice567. About being a good paramedic. I thanked them for their report and then said they could look at her and repeat the same report to her because she was in charge of the call and I was supervising it. I swear they could have seen smoke coming out of their ears, but they did as they were told and never gave me that attitude when I had an apprentice again.”
u/rachel_higs commented: “This crap is so idiotic, when I work in the auto industry the customer service team has always dealt with that. Guys would get a customer services agent, and ask for a customer services manager… who was a woman. Then he asked the sales manager/supervisor Sales… who was a woman. Then he asked for the operations manager… who was a woman. Then he asked for the CEO… who was a woman. Like my brother, you stuck with us… Be a man [laughing my a** off]. “